Today will be a great day
Today I will be great
Today I will fall and get back up to go again
Today I will inspire
Today I will be inspired
Today will be great and I will be great!
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Monday, September 13, 2010
randomness... find the good 1st
become the person you'd love to fall in love with
~ Maya Angelou
an ongoing process...
acknowledge the beauty within
acknowledge the potential inside and outside of myself
I was recently reminded how important the words I choose are. A simple negative statement can effect the rest of the experience and/or day, however if you take that same statement and look at it from the other side - the positive side - the experience can be great.
as we are always reminded in Anusara ... look for the good first
~ Maya Angelou
an ongoing process...
acknowledge the beauty within
acknowledge the potential inside and outside of myself
I was recently reminded how important the words I choose are. A simple negative statement can effect the rest of the experience and/or day, however if you take that same statement and look at it from the other side - the positive side - the experience can be great.
as we are always reminded in Anusara ... look for the good first
Friday, September 3, 2010
that little voice
As I have become older I have also become more insecure and doubting of myself.
Logically I know that there is no reason to doubt, to feel insecure. My brain can rationalize and tell me that these are false thoughts... yet there is this voice that keeps popping up. I almost want to give her a name - we often speak many times a day - we really should be on a first name basis. She is not a very supportive and encouraging friend. If I saw her number on my phone I would probably choose not to answer.
Depending on where I am teaching she may choose to come and help me setup for class. Once I take my seat she almost always goes away and I can teach with confidence. Often she returns for savasana. We silently argue - her telling me all of my mistakes, things that I forgot, telling me how someone else would have done it this way and better.
Sometimes she is winning the arguments and I start to scrutinize all aspects of the class and my teaching and start to wonder why am I doing this. On a pretty regular basis students will come to me after class (they actually go out of their way) to tell me they enjoyed the class or ask for advice. At this moment - I win the battle and she goes away. I receive confirmation from outside of myself to help win the battle and make her go away.
I know, in my head, the truth that I am a good teacher ; continuing to refine and improve on a daily basis. I think I am more insecure now then when I was 20 because I care a great deal more now about what I am doing - the stakes are higher. I want more for myself and for those around me.
At this time - I will choose to keep her without a name. I want our conversations to be less frequent so that she doesn't need a name.
Logically I know that there is no reason to doubt, to feel insecure. My brain can rationalize and tell me that these are false thoughts... yet there is this voice that keeps popping up. I almost want to give her a name - we often speak many times a day - we really should be on a first name basis. She is not a very supportive and encouraging friend. If I saw her number on my phone I would probably choose not to answer.
Depending on where I am teaching she may choose to come and help me setup for class. Once I take my seat she almost always goes away and I can teach with confidence. Often she returns for savasana. We silently argue - her telling me all of my mistakes, things that I forgot, telling me how someone else would have done it this way and better.
Sometimes she is winning the arguments and I start to scrutinize all aspects of the class and my teaching and start to wonder why am I doing this. On a pretty regular basis students will come to me after class (they actually go out of their way) to tell me they enjoyed the class or ask for advice. At this moment - I win the battle and she goes away. I receive confirmation from outside of myself to help win the battle and make her go away.
I know, in my head, the truth that I am a good teacher ; continuing to refine and improve on a daily basis. I think I am more insecure now then when I was 20 because I care a great deal more now about what I am doing - the stakes are higher. I want more for myself and for those around me.
At this time - I will choose to keep her without a name. I want our conversations to be less frequent so that she doesn't need a name.
Monday, March 1, 2010
managing our expectations and influencing someone else's
How do you manage expectations of a situation? How does your sharing of an experience alter someone's expectation of a similar situation?
I went to my 1st John Friend workshop the other weekend. When I returned everyone was asking me how it was and my response was "I had fun, it was good, I learned a great deal". Each time their response back to me was - "Just good?"
For years now I have been hearing that his workshops were "amazing, life changing, like nothing else out there". This is a very unfair expectation to put on a situation and a person. How can any one situation possibly live up to that expectation. It is very much like a movie that everyone is raving about for weeks telling you that is the funniest thing they have ever seen. You finally go to the movie expecting to laugh so hard you will pee in your pants. Well, it is funny but your bladder is intact. It has been built up so much that there is no way it could possibly live up to the expectation.
We need to be more aware of how the sharing of our own experience can effect another person's opportunity to create their own expectation from a similar experience.
I went to my 1st John Friend workshop the other weekend. When I returned everyone was asking me how it was and my response was "I had fun, it was good, I learned a great deal". Each time their response back to me was - "Just good?"
For years now I have been hearing that his workshops were "amazing, life changing, like nothing else out there". This is a very unfair expectation to put on a situation and a person. How can any one situation possibly live up to that expectation. It is very much like a movie that everyone is raving about for weeks telling you that is the funniest thing they have ever seen. You finally go to the movie expecting to laugh so hard you will pee in your pants. Well, it is funny but your bladder is intact. It has been built up so much that there is no way it could possibly live up to the expectation.
We need to be more aware of how the sharing of our own experience can effect another person's opportunity to create their own expectation from a similar experience.
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